I’m not going to say when my birthday was, because you can never be too safe on the Internet. But suffice to say, I’m 22 now. I’ve learned a lot from my 22 years on this earth (apparently, one of those things is internet safety). Here’s the rest:
1. Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answer to. For example, don’t ask “may I use the restroom” in a restaurant. They may say no, and you don’t want that answer. Just walk in and go. Same goes for asking other questions that you would not want to actually hear the answer to.
2. You don’t lose the things that are large or the things that are always on your person
3. Assume that everyone likes you. This is a great strategy if you’re the type of person who worries about what other people think.
4. Giving gifts is often more fun than receiving them.
5. The worries that seem huge now won’t matter even a few months later
6. Speak a little slower
7. Always have an emergency avocado in your fridge
8. Start things as early as possible
9. The body that you have when you are able to treat yourself and sometimes skip a workout is the body that you were always meant to have, because it is how you look when you are enjoying life.
10. Rational questions and humor work well against anxiety.
11. If you don’t take a break your body will eventually force you to take a break
12. Most of the time, people want you to just listen and repeat back what they said.
13. It is ok to feel angry. Anger is just as valid as sadness, worry, or any other emotion.
14. If something is meant for you, and you work for it, you will get to have it. This has also helped me accept times when I worked really hard and did not get something— maybe it just wasn’t meant for me.
15. When your room is clean, you are calmer
16. Fear is best conquered through exposure
17. You are happiest when you see friends more often
18. There is no such thing as wasted knowledge
19. Don’t keep looking for the next best thing (this is regarding clothing– thought I’d clarify).
20. There is such a thing as “preventative” care for mental health just as there is for physical health. For example, if you want better mental health, make sure to get your recommended amount of sleep, eat three meals a day, and move a little. Odds are, your moods will be better over time assuming that you take those preventative actions.
21. Let people come to the answer themselves whenever possible
22. If you’re in a bad mood and you don’t let it show, your mood will get better
Those are the life lessons I’ve learned over time. Which ones have you learned?